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Calling out of the blue: Why would you do this to someone you love?

By Ellen McCarthy

28 Nov 2022 · 5 min read

Editor's Note

"Impromptu calls have become roughly equivalent to turning up unannounced at someone’s home". The Washington Post reports on the unwritten rules of communication, and what you're doing wrong.

Adria Barich is a haunted woman. Her tormentor tracks her everywhere, threatening to ambush her in a dimly lit parking garage, as she drives down a desolate road or when she's let her guard down to wash dishes or collapse on the couch.

"I've actually changed my ringtone a few times, because I start to associate it with terror," says Barich, a 24-year-old California woman who works in marketing. "But every time that I do, after, like, a week or so, it just becomes terrifying again."

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