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Why am I always so angry?

By Philippa Perry

18 Dec 2022 · 4 min read

Editor's Note

When faced with "sadness, shame, or fear, it is easier for some of us to go to anger," a psychotherapist for the Guardian explains. Here's how to develop the right skill set to "control impulsivity."

The question I’m a single woman in my_ 40s. I have a career and I own my flat, but I’m continually unhappy. I’ve been taking all sorts of antidepressants on and off for the past 20 years and have seen different types of _therapists, doctors, psychiatrists and have attended anger management and mindfulness courses, retreats, yoga. Nothing works. My brain scans are normal.

My siblings are all happily married with kids. I’ve always wanted a family, but I’ve never had a healthy, functioning relationship with a man. My intimate relationships have been extremely volatile. I have loads of friends, but no close ones. They’ve told me they never know when I’ll kick off.

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